It is perfectly natural to not want to have sex sometimes. After all, women don’t have sex on their brains all the time, like their male counterparts. But if you’re finding yourself becoming disinterested in sex altogether and reaching orgasm seems to be a chore than anything else, you may be suffering, like many thousands of women around the world, from female sexual dysfunction. But low sex drive can be dealt with once you know what’s causing it.
- Stress: This one’s such an irony. Sex is known to relieve stress, but when you’re stressed about work or unpaid bills or your kids’ bad grades; you don’t really want to have sex. And if the stress is showing up in your sex life all the time, you may want to do something about it. What you need is to calm down. Maybe kick back with a glass of wine and some good old fashioned conversation with your partner after dinner to help you relax. Yoga is known to calm you down too.
- Medication: Many doctors have noticed that when people are on strong medication as part of their treatment find it hard to get aroused. Medicines such as antihypertensives, antidepressants and even birth control pills have the potential to interfere with sex drive, arousal and orgasm by reducing libido. The easiest way to deal with this problem is to consult your doctor in order to find out which medicine or combination of medicines is causing the problem and certainly before taking yourself off the offending medication yourself.
- Relationship Issues: Unresolved relationship issues almost always make their presence felt between the sheets. Communication problems, pent-up anger, trust issues, a sense of a lack of connection or intimacy can all lead to severe insecurity that manifests itself as low sex drive. Solutions are obvious. Resolve the conflict. Open the communication channels, and discuss. With your psychiatrist, if need be.
- Alcohol, smoking, drugs: All injurious to health in several ways, and can have a debilitating effect on your sex life as well. Drugs and cigarettes can play havoc with the internal workings of the body resulting in, among other things, a decreased interest in sex. This problem can be resolved by cutting down on alcohol and cigarettes and drugs, it has been firmly established, are best given up all together.